Inspired by the film ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ and the characters trip to Italy. It was in the moment where she experience ‘the sweetness of doing nothing’ Il Dolce Far Neinte! The moment of space, being carefree and just enjoying LIFE!
Have you ever had one of those days where the children are preoccupied? That moment they go to school, play at the park or out with family. The moment where you are not with them 24/7.
Maybe you decide that during this time you binge on Youtube. Or you may go into magpie mode and seek something to do or for an answer to something? Maybe you even want to read? Yet, as you binge you start to sense a rising inner tension.
Like you just do not want to stop, like you MUST do something. Clean something, fix something or even buy something.
An inner anxiety. Opposite to inner happiness or freedom.
Like you ‘should’ be doing something, filling EVERY SINGLE MINUTE and not allowing yourself to take time out to just sit, relax or even enjoy this time we have been waiting for.
Well, in Italy it is a practice. Il Dolce Far Neinte!
I allow myself to sit and relax
For me, this is where I would fill my time with some kind of work, a distraction from actual time out to rest. Keep my frazzled mind going. I wouldn’t know how to stop.
Maybe you listen to crystal bowls, tarot read, fill up on psychological and physiological knowledge.
Maybe you stay up late and sleep in lots because it feels much needed
Maybe you start to allow yourself to just be
Maybe a side to you comes out that is happier this way
And YET! Nobody understands this side to you because they are still rushing around.
You may even feel you do not fit in, you may feel an anxiety rising to the top… the I shouldn’t be doing this.
I should not be relaxing or having fun
I should clean my home 24/7
I should make sure everything is sorted by myself
And that relaxation or having fun is like your are being some kind of naughty girl for doing so. If I rest, then I am giving up on everything I have worked for. Even though we know deep down we get more done and are more productive when well rested.
Your body is screaming. YOU ARE THINKING TO MUCH AND ITS TIME TO BE YOU AND HAVE A TIME FOR YOU
Is it time to allow yourself to be and ALLOW your body the TIME to have fun and recoup?
The issues is, we feel we have so many things to do and so little time without asking for help
Recently, I found myself sitting with this exact feeling. I found some time for doing sweet nothing and all I wanted to do was fill the gaps. Yet, my excuse was, if I do not do this then everything will go wrong.
I sat with this feeling, which turned into a small panic… that rose to a….
I FEEL like I’ll lose everything
I FEEL like it’s going wrong
I FEEL like I do not know what to do with this time out
The sudden realisation, that with freedom… comes choice! Is this what I am so afraid of? The not knowing. Fear of what is around the corner.
Not suddenly FILLING my time with ‘STUFF’… a big plethora of stuff too.
And, I keep telling myself… just how HARD and BUSY life is!
We have the choice to do sweet nothing to recharge…
You can quietly sit
You can quietly listen
You can do what your body feels
You can be carefree
The sweetness of doing nothing
Maybe we could think of 1001 things that need doing NOW
Doing sweet nothing and being nothing allows for the answers to this, it brings an air of patience, an air of play. The perfect recipe for manifesting.
It’s a learning and we are all learning
For any feelings that arise in the joyfulness of doing sweet nothing… pause to feel rather than question
Let go and allow
Be loved, truly loved
And surrender to the wonder of
Il Dolce Far Neinte
Have you ever experienced the sweetness of doing nothing? Or do you fill your time? Is it time to enjoy the sweetness of doing nothing?
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